What Is Your Attachment Style?
– April 22, 2017
Attachment style is the way you relate to other people. How we attach is developed in our infancy. Child psychologists put a lot of analysis into how a baby demonstrates their attachment styles. Some believe it can be indicative of issues in the future from school problems to relationship problems. There are three primary categories of attachment: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Each person falls mostly into one of these three categories. There is not often gray areas for people regarding their attachment style.
What Does Attachment Style Have To Do With Addiction?
People who struggle with addiction have a tendency to struggle in the way they relate to others. Romantic relationships or just friendships can be influenced by attachment style. If someone is prone to avoiding others, they might have negative relations. Negative relations can push someone to cope with their isolation and feelings of alienation by abusing drugs and alcohol. Those with a secure attachment are less likely to struggle with the insecurity of anxious or avoidant attachment styles. Attaching to drugs and alcohol is part of the problem with addiction. Many feel that they have a better relationship with and connection to mind altering substances than they do people.
How Do I Know What My Attachment Style Is?
Here are some simple characteristics of each attachment style.
1. Secure Attachment Style
Intimacy of any kind is not an issue
Weight is not given to problems or misunderstandings
Direct and open communication
No need for manipulation or emotional games
Can receive criticism without taking it personally
2. Anxious Attachment Style
Desire for and ability to be intimate
Codependent tendencies of replacing personal needs with those of a partner or friend
Takes criticisms, misunderstanding,s and minor problems personally and seriously
You have difficulty maintaining healthy boundaries
Resorts to manipulative efforts to receive validation and reassurances
3. Avoidant Attachment Style
Emotionally shut off, not available to be intimate
High value on self-sufficiency and independence
Use behaviors to distance yourself from a partner or friend so they recognize their limit
You don’t share your feelings and emotional experiences with others
Make unilateral decisions and ignore the needs of others
Repressed feelings of anxious attachment
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