Whether or not you tell someone that you are in recovery – and when – is a very personal decision. Some people prefer not to share because they don’t want others to judge them for their past; they want others to see them for who they are now. Some people share because their struggles have made them who they are today. Everyone has their own reasons and story.
It is your choice how much you share and with whom. You may choose to tell family and close friends more than you would a coworker. It can be helpful to consider how much they need to know – who do you want to make privy to the intimate details of your life?
Some people choose to wait until they’ve reached a milestone in their recovery to share with others. Perhaps a year, or five years. Telling others can help you to stay accountable, but it’s also important to wait until you’re ready and are feeling confident in your recovery. How long this takes varies from person to person.
Handling Social Situations
You have several options for dealing with social situations and sobriety. You may want to disclose your sobriety ahead of time in a more private setting so the group can choose an appropriate location where alcohol is not prevalent. This can help you to feel more comfortable than waiting until you’re already there to speak up.
While out with friends, there are many ways that you can address your sobriety and casually turn down drink offers. Consider some of the following approaches:
- Being honest and saying that you no longer drink. You can add that you’re in recovery or just leave it at that.
- Sharing that you don’t like how drinking makes you feel (or act), so you choose sobriety.
- Telling someone that you don’t enjoy drinking, care for the taste of alcohol, or feel the desire to drink.
- Saying that you used to drink but you don’t anymore.
- Letting them know that you’re X days/months/years sober and you plan to continue that way.
You don’t have to make a big scene of it. Say what you want to say with confidence and move on. Enjoy your non-alcoholic drink and start a new topic of conversation. Chances are, they’ll accept what you have to say and forget about it because it doesn’t really affect them. If someone really wants to know more, you can offer to discuss it with them later.
Get Real Recovery works with clients along every step of the way, from detox through outpatient care. You’ll learn the strategies and skills necessary to maintain sobriety while making the most of each day. Recovery looks different for everyone, so find the personalized care you need at Get Real Recovery, and share your journey with others if and when you choose.
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